As a young girl with a Dad in sales, I grew up listening to the motivational words of the one and only Zig Ziglar, so I have to say it was an absolute highlight to meet the man himself.
Zig is now in his mid 80’s and after a fall 2 years ago which impaired his short term memory he is no longer able to present as he used to on stage but this hasn’t stopped him sharing his wisdom and life’s work with other’s.
At the VIP event I attended in Dallas, Zig’s hometown he was the guest of honor, surrounded by people who wanted a moment to connect with him.
Zig gave everything he had with the patience of a saint and energy of an athlete. With every single person he was present, he shared a small moment, he shared a line of wisdom, a conversation or a question. He made each person feel like they were the only person in the room. Sometimes we don’t realise the power our words can have on another.
Zig was the epitome of ‘generosity of spirit’. Are you generous with your spirit? Do you take the time to impart a few kind words, or a gem or two of wisdom with others? To make others feel special and heard when you sit with them ?
How do we really make our connections count?
For me it’s about making sure when we connect with people it’s in a meaningful way, not superficially with ‘hi how are you, how’s the weather’ type conversations to something deeper and more meaningful. A place where we truly get to know each other.
Some of the things I like to think about so I can make connections count are;
1. How can I be of service? Everyone has something to offer to someone else. So what can you help people with? It may have nothing to do with business. It may be that they’re talking about needing a good plumber, or having a bad back, or in need of a caterer for a party. Who do you know, what do you know and how can you help?
2. Be willing to have tough conversations. It’s not all about smooth sailing in any of our relationships in life and nor is it with business connections. Sometimes you have to be willing to walk though the conflict together, to have the uncomfortable conversation and come out stronger and closer for it.
Be There, Care & Share
Being there for me is about being present and in the moment with people. Caring is about finding the part of you that is like them, having empathy and understanding as you put yourself in their shoes. Sharing is about being vulnerable and opening up, as when you share who you are. It gives others permission to do the same. Share a part of you, a conversation, moment or an experience with someone.
I think our words are one of the most beautiful gifts we can give to others, so try to make every connection count. As Zig famously said: if you help enough people get what they want, then you will get everything you want in life.